It All Comes Down to This

With so much to say, where does a person start?  Well, if you’re a runner, it’s easy, you start at the starting line.  But if you’re not a runner and you’re several decades into your life and your job or career, then what?

Then maybe start here, in Lane 8:

There, I said it. Hope this doesn’t scare anyone off. It is what it is.

Over Two Years Ago

Last night I was transferring photos to several external hard drives, when I found this, from April 2007. Well over two years ago, I had started to write the first page.  Had completely forgotten about this attempt.  Here it is for posterity:


How many books and articles have been written, over time, about what’s really important in life?  In business?  In leadership?  In raising children?  In becoming successful?  In learning to prioritize your life?  In achieving financial freedom? In becoming the best you can be?  The answer, we all know.  It’s thousands and thousands.  This begs a profound question.  What are they all trying to say?  Really?

Two of the most magnificent days in your life are the day you were born, and, the day you figure out why!

Have you figured it out yet?  If you’re like me, and the rest of your human brothers and sisters,  the obvious answer is no!  Most of us, simply because we’re human, will go to our graves not knowing.  How tragic is that?  It’s criminal, eh?

How then, is it possible to travel for decades on this glorious planet, and never figure this out?  This too is a no-brainer. It’s because, “EVERYTHING’S IMPORTANT”!

What do you mean, Jeff?  Think about it.  We have all had bosses, or maybe we were the boss, and, it’s one fire-drill after another.  Everything’s important, right. It gets so confusing that we finally just cave in and  say, “OK, everything’s important”.  It’s that seemingly insignificant moment that you doom yourself to a life of mediocrity.  Really!

It’s like the story of the frog in a pan of room temperature water, sitting on the stove.  A group of teenagers slowly turn up the heat to see what the frog will do. We all know how this plays out.  The frog never notices the slowly changing water temperature and dies as the water finally reaches the boiling point.

How is this possible?  It’s possible because you and I are weak.  We are conditioned to accept mediocrity.  We are shown images of greatness in the media.  Constantly.  No one ever talks about the serious, but do-able, effort required to be excellent.  And so it goes.  We give up, It’s perfectly acceptable to give up.  Everyone does it.  Why should you be any different?  Because!

Because if you don’t try harder, you will never know the difference between joy , liberation and inner peace, compared to the alternative – a life sentence in your unfulfilled journey.  Is this your legacy?  The legacy  you want your children to see and model?  Go to jail, go directly to jail.  Do not pass go.  Do not collect $200 dollars.

Right now you should be feeling some pain.  Emotional, psychological pain.  This is a very good sign this  book is for you.

It has taking years, no, decades, to discern the truth.  You’ve probably heard it said:  “Wisdom comes from experience, and experience comes from making mistakes”.  The truth is here at your fingertips.  In these pages.  You can do what you want at this point.  The choice is yours (there’s a BFO)!

I know of no other person who’s invested more time and emotional labor to simply life’s truths.  They say, “to teach is to learn twice”.  Your journey is like mine.  We are born.  We grow and learn.  Somewhere on your  path, is your answer to your question, “why am I here”?

Are you ready?


Yes, pause and think.

This will make you feel uncomfortable, no doubt.  You should get used to this feeling, so that, in time, you will welcome your pain that comes when you  slow down and looking inside yourself.  You will discover, there is no other way.

If you think about why you are reading this book, then your answer to continue or not  will be automatic.  Yes!

Please turn the page when you are ready.